Family Lawyer’s Guidance on Telling Your Story and Transparency in Children Law Applications

You have come out of a court hearing and been vindicated. You were believed, and it feels great. You probably want to tell everyone that your ex got their comeuppance in court. Before contacting the Daily Mail or posting on Social Media, you need to be aware of the rules regarding what you can and cannot say about family law proceedings concerning your children.
Our specialist family law solicitors can support you through children’s law proceedings and provide guidance on the rules regarding confidentiality and transparency.
If you need help with child residence or contact proceedings, phone Evolve Family Law or complete our online enquiry form.
Telling your story
Whilst your experience with child arrangement order, specific issue order, relocation order, or prohibited steps order proceedings is your story, your child is entitled to their privacy. That’s why judges insist that all court proceedings concerning children are kept confidential.
Parents are not allowed to disclose to anyone who isn’t a party to the children’s law court application the proceedings or to show them court paperwork. There are some exceptions to this rule. For example, your family law solicitor will need to explain to a potential witness why they are requesting that they file a statement of evidence on their behalf. Alternatively, your family lawyer may need to ask permission from the court to disclose relevant court documents to a child psychologist, allowing the expert to prepare a report.
Whilst it is frustrating to be constrained by children’s law rules, the easiest way to think of the blanket rules is that they are there to protect children who find themselves caught up in child arrangement orders or other court proceedings. Children rarely want the story told. If a child is old enough to have a say, they don’t want their friends gossiping, and they are fiercely protective of their privacy.
Speaking about your experience of family court proceedings
Before discussing your experience (good or bad) in the family court with third parties, it is essential to consult with your lawyer. Get expert advice and follow it; otherwise, you risk a judge finding you in contempt of court. Alternatively, if you breach confidentiality rules after an interim court hearing, you risk the judge at the final hearing refusing to make the orders you want. One example of this is speaking out after the judge makes findings at a finding of fact hearing. You may be delighted or appalled by the judge’s findings about an incident of domestic violence, but speaking about your experiences and identifying yourself (and, therefore, your child) could massively backfire.
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Transparency orders and children’s law court proceedings
A family court judge can be asked to issue a transparency order to permit limited media reporting of a child’s law application. These orders are rarely made. Additionally, the information a parent is allowed to disclose is strictly controlled.
Recent transparency order
A current example of a transparency order application made in children’s law proceedings is the 2025 reported case called M v F & Another.
In these child arrangement order proceedings, the mother accused the child’s father of rape. The father countered her serious domestic violence accusations with an allegation of parental alienation. A judge initially dismissed the mother’s allegation of abuse, but eventually, the court made a finding that the mother had been raped and stripped the father of parental responsibility for his child.
The family court issued a rare transparency order, allowing the mother to speak to the media and permitting the press to report her story. However, the order was tight enough to restrict the mother from personally writing or talking about the case. The mother’s barrister, therefore, asked the court to vary the transparency order, allowing the mother the freedom to speak out under a pseudonym to share her story and highlight her experience of the judicial system.
When considering the mother’s request to vary the transparency order, the court had to consider:
- Section 12 of the Administration of Justice Act 1960
- The Family Procedure Rules 2010
- The inherent jurisdiction of the High Court
- Articles 8 and 10 of the European Convention of Human Rights
- The best interests of the child and the Children Act 1989
When considering the mother’s request to vary the initial transparency order, the court said:
‘The Court wishes to make clear, before embarking on its analysis of the legal arguments, that it is profoundly sympathetic to Ms. M’s position. The Court fully appreciates that the inability to be able to speak openly about how, as a victim of rape and domestic abuse she was dealt with by the family justice system, compounds the trauma she has suffered, and is experienced as a further means of coercion and control. Ms M clearly has an invaluable contribution to make to current debates about domestic abuse, parental alienation and contact with children within the family justice system. ’
The judge granted the mother’s request to vary the transparency order and allowed her to publish information under an alias about the proceedings, thereby preserving the anonymity of the child and, consequently, the parents.
The transparency order says:
‘On the question of publication, and pursuant to the Court’s inherent jurisdiction, I therefore conclude:
- Permission is granted to Ms M to publish media articles about her experiences of the family court system and the domestic abuse she suffered at the hands of the father, using an alias. Mr F’s application is refused.
- Permission is granted to Ms M to speak at events facilitated by organisations such as Cafcass, women’s right groups and children’s rights groups, using an alias. Mr F’s application is refused.’
The court had to weigh the child’s right to privacy against the potential harm to the child of being known as the child in these child arrangement order proceedings, against the mother’s rights and reasonable request to inform others about her experience with the court system.
The judge agreed to relax the terms of the transparency order because:
‘Ultimately, in my judgment, the greatest protection for C’s Article 8 rights is Ms M herself. She has always sought to exercise her parental responsibility in an entirely child-focused way, such that C is safeguarded and protected. Ms M is clear she will not endanger C’s own interests by risking identification. Given that clear commitment to protecting C’s anonymity, Ms M’s interests and those of C are more easily reconciled. In my judgment, Ms M can be trusted to carefully evaluate those events in which she can safely participate and those events where the risks are unmanageable. I do not consider Ms M would participate in any event where there was a risk her own anonymity or that of C would be compromised. With that safeguard in place to mitigate the risks to C, I am satisfied in balancing the competing Article 10 and Article 8 rights, the balance comes down in favour of publication. In short, Ms M can be trusted to exercise her parental responsibility to uphold and protect C’s rights and interests. In such circumstances, a blanket prohibition would be an unnecessary and disproportionate interference with Ms M’s Convention rights.’
Other family law solicitors can now use the court decision to request a transparency order in situations where a parent wishes to discuss the court proceedings while acting in the best interests of their child.
Your court experience
As family lawyers, we are acutely aware of the traumatic impact that court hearings and judgments can have. If you are believed, it’s understandable that you want to shout it from the rooftops because you want to highlight what you went through. Discussing your experience can give others the incentive to stand firm and say no to shared parenting or to refrain from contact if they don’t think it is in their child’s best interests.
Equally, if a parent has tried to stop contact by making up false allegations, it is equally understandable why the other parent would want to tell their story to give other parents hope. Recounting their judicial experience can highlight the need for additional judicial resources to reduce court delays or provide extra training so that family court professionals understand the importance of questioning one parent’s account rather than accepting it at face value.
Whatever your court experience, our family lawyers always advise caution when discussing child arrangement orders or other children’s law proceedings. It is easy to type and post online and for your story to be picked up by the media, but you must ask yourself: Is this in the best interests of my child, and will I get in trouble because I haven’t applied for a transparency order?
Talk to our family law experts.
Whether you are at the start of your journey to securing a child arrangement order or towards the end of it, our children law solicitors can help you navigate the complex family law rules to help you achieve the child arrangement order you seek and to ensure you understand and follow the rules on what you are allowed to report with or without a transparency order in place.
If you need help with child arrangement order proceedings, phone Evolve Family Law or complete our online enquiry form.