Evolve Family Law is delighted to announce that it is all change again at Evolve Family Law with the arrival of Debra Lowy at the North Manchester branch of Evolve Family Law . Debra Lowy is a solicitor specialising in all aspects of private family law, from divorce and relationship breakdown, to financial settlements, and to child custody cases. Debra joins Robin Charrot, co-founder of Evolve Family Law and one of the North West’s leading experts on prenuptial agreements and financial settlements on divorce, at Evolve Family Law’s new North Manchester offices. Debra, who is a Prestwich resident, has over 25 years’ experience in divorce, financial settlement and child custody law, including at partner level. She is full of enthusiasm about her new role at Evolve Family Law. Debra says ‘’ it is great to join Evolve Family Law North Manchester office to help spread the word about Evolve Family Law and the services it offers. As a Prestwich resident, I think it is vital that North Manchester can compete with the likes of the city centre in Manchester in offering specialist professional service firms, whether that is accountancy, financial services or legal services. ‘’In my opinion, what marks Evolve Family Law out as different to your average law firm in either the suburbs or the city centre is that the client is at the heart of everything Evolve do . Some may call that just good old-fashioned service and I guess that is what it is, combined with a passion for family law. That dedication to client service and listening to clients to get the family law outcomes that are best for them matched my own ethos and approach to family law. ‘’ Evolve Family Law offers a personalised, local alternative to the large city-centre firms whilst being able to provide city-centre specialist expertise at affordable rates. That ethos really fits with my style of providing approachable but astute family law legal advice. If you are going through a relationship breakdown , worried about child custody , or concerned about who will get the house in a divorce split then you need the best possible advice and support to help you move on with your life. That is where I can help you. Commenting on Debra’s move to Evolve Family Law and the continued expansion of the firm, Robin Charrot said: “Our aim is to establish Evolve Family Law as the “go-to” divorce lawyers in North Manchester for all areas of family and private client law. Debra has really impressed us with her experience, enthusiasm, common sense and empathy. I’m sure Debra Lowy will help us to become the first choice legal advisors for local clients from all backgrounds in North Manchester.” If you would like to speak to Debra Lowy at Evolve Family Law please contact us [related_posts]

When a relationship breaks down parents need to reach an agreement on contact arrangements for their children. If they cannot do so, a family court judge can make a child arrangements order settling with whom the child should live and the contact arrangements. Child law advice can help parents avoid child arrangements order court proceedings by helping them reach an agreement. Agreeing child contact after separation or divorce Most of us like to think that if we were to split up from our partner we would still be able to communicate over the kids and sit down and sort out contact. However many separated or divorced couples find it hard to reach agreement on contact. They often need child law advice to help them reach a resolution and avoid court proceedings. Some parents worry about asking for children law advice, thinking that a solicitor will just recommend making an application to the family court for a child arrangements order to sort out residence and contact. The reality is that not all children law solicitors are like that. Most good children law solicitors will help a parent look at the contact options by considering contact from your ex-partners or child’s perspective, looking at the practicalities of what you both want, and advising on the sort of child arrangements order that a court might make if either you or your ex-partner were to make a court application. Shared care and equal parenting You may think that there is only one contact arrangement that will work for you and your family. Perhaps you know other separated families and the children all live with one parent with the other parent has alternate weekend contact. If your ex-partner wants to share the care of the children, and you do not know any other separated families that do that, their proposals can seem unworkable. However, parents can agree to and courts can order shared parenting of children. Shared care does not have to mean that children spend an equal amount of time with each parent. Shared care can involve overnight mid-week contact and the sharing of school holidays. Often the question of whether shared care and specific proposed contact arrangements will work for a family will hinge on practical considerations. For example, the distance of the school commute from both parent’s homes and both parent’s ability to communicate over mundane items, such as whether the school homework has been done or the washing and the handover of the school PE kit. A good children law solicitor can act as both a sounding board for shared care and contact proposals as well as advising on what a court is likely to order, after assessing your child’s needs and the family circumstances. Whilst parents always know their child’s needs best if it comes to court proceedings a judge will carry out their own assessment and make a child arrangements order. That is why good children law solicitors recommend trying to agree contact after a separation or divorce so parents remain in control, rather than the court.   Shared parenting – a campaign for law reform Campaigners are asking the government to change child custody law so there is a legal presumption that in every case where a mother and father separate or divorce, the mother and father will share the parenting of their children. Campaigners are calling for the start point when sorting out custody of children after a separation or divorce to be that children should spend roughly an equal amount of time with their mother and father. The campaign is supported by a recent YouGov survey in favour of shared parenting. Eight out of ten of the two thousand people who took part in the survey agreed that there should be a presumption of shared parenting after a separation or divorce unless the family situation meant there was a proven risk to the child of joint custody. [related_posts] Legal advice for child custody Manchester child custody solicitors say it is important that parents who want to agree contact after a separation or divorce take legal advice on child custody and contact. That is because communication between parents in the early days after a separation or divorce, can make a vast amount of difference to what contact arrangements can be agreed or the court is prepared to order. Child custody solicitors know that when it comes to either agreeing contact or asking a family judge to make a child arrangements order the presentation and preparation of your proposals is the key to success. In the future, for those parents who want to share the care of children after a separation, making the case in court for shared parenting may become easier if the government makes changes to child custody law. In the meantime, parents need a child custody solicitor who will listen to what they want and advise on the best way of agreeing contact after separation or divorce. For legal help agreeing contact or on any aspect of children law please contact us

The government has acknowledged that its plans to bring in legislation to introduce no fault or no blame divorce proceedings and dissolution of civil partnership proceedings in England and Wales may result in an increase in divorce proceedings. The Secretary of State for Justice, David Gauke made a statement recently saying that people were holding off starting divorce proceedings until the new UK divorce law comes into force. The government thinks that when the new divorce law is brought in there may be a spike in the divorce rate but the divorce rate will then level off and ultimately will be about the same. Manchester divorce solicitors have welcomed the Divorce, Dissolution and Separation Bill as the Bill, when it becomes law, will remove the requirement to make allegations about spousal behaviour in divorce petitions. Proposed new divorce law The government is plans to change divorce law and civil partnership dissolution to: Remove the ability of a husband or wife or civil partner to oppose a divorce or dissolution of civil partnership in court; Make ‘’irretrievable breakdown’’ of a marriage or civil partnership the only ground for divorce or dissolution of civil partnership. There will be no need to prove one of the current ‘’facts’’ to get a divorce, such as unreasonable behaviour. Instead the spouse or civil partner seeking the divorce or dissolution of civil partnership will have to  provide a statement of irretrievable breakdown; Keep the two-stage decree nisi and the decree absolute divorce process; Provide a minimum timeframe of six months from start of the divorce petition stage to final decree absolute of divorce or civil partnership. This six month period is to allow time for reflection before the divorce proceedings or dissolution of civil partnership proceedings are finalised; Allow couples to jointly start divorce or dissolution proceedings should they elect to do so. Although the government minister has said that couples who are thinking about starting divorce proceedings or dissolution of civil partnership proceedings may delay their court proceedings until the divorce law reforms become law, divorce solicitors say that for some couples a delay in starting divorce or dissolution proceedings may not be in their interests. The current divorce law Currently there is no such thing as a ‘’no fault’’ divorce or dissolution of civil partnership. If you want to get divorced, without waiting, in England, you have to show that your marriage has ‘’irretrievably broken down’’ and cite either adultery or unreasonable behaviour. A civil partner can only cite unreasonable behaviour in a dissolution of civil partnership petition. Avoiding an acrimonious divorce    The top Manchester divorce solicitors believe that, in most cases, experienced divorce solicitors can help avoid any acrimony when starting divorce proceedings, based on adultery or unreasonable behaviour, by: Giving advice that in most situations the basis for the divorce proceedings or civil partnership proceedings will not affect the custody arrangements for the children or who gets the house ; and Preparing the divorce paperwork in a way that avoids unnecessarily inflaming any tension between a husband and wife or civil partners; and Helping a couple look at the major issues that need resolving, such as access and contact arrangements for the children, payment of child support and spousal maintenance and sorting out a financial settlement and financial court order. [related_posts] Should you delay your divorce?  Some couples are already asking top Manchester divorce solicitors if they should delay getting divorced now to avoid having to say that their partner has committed adultery or behaved unreasonably in the divorce petition. The top Manchester divorce solicitors say that: Starting divorce proceedings because of a spouse’s unreasonable behaviour or adultery does not have to increase animosity between a couple if there is a an explanation given by divorce  solicitors of why you are having to include the allegations in a petition; In some family situations, it is vital to start divorce proceedings without delay. For example, if you are worried that your spouse could start divorce proceedings in another jurisdiction or if you are concerned that a delay in starting divorce proceedings could reduce the amount of a financial settlement. For example, a spouse could spend a pension lump sum payment or a spouse could transfer or hide assets. Top Manchester divorce solicitors recommend that if you are contemplating a divorce or dissolution of civil partnership that legal advice is taken on the timing of starting court proceedings. That is because new legislation is not the only way of ensuring that you can get divorced without acrimony, as a lot depends on your choice of solicitor and willingness to communicate and compromise where appropriate. How can Evolve Family Law solicitors help? For advice on starting divorce proceedings or dissolution of civil partnership proceedings or for children law or financial settlement advice contact us Appointments available in Manchester and Holmes Chapel, Cheshire

If a parent had asked me the question "After my divorce, can I move to another part of the country with my child?’’ a few months ago I would have said "Yes you can", unless the family situation was complicated. As a Manchester children solicitor it is always hard to explain to a parent why different rules apply if, after a separation or divorce, you want to relocate in the UK or abroad with your child. The law and moving within the UK with a child The law on relocating with a child within the UK not always clear. Imagine the scenario of a parent who wants to move from Manchester to Cornwall. Anyone who has made the trip by car, train, coach or plane knows that it is far easier and quicker to get to some locations in France or Spain than get to Cornwall. Until recently, our children solicitors’ advice would have been that it was unlikely that a court would stop the primary or main carer of a child from moving within the UK. That advice was given whether it was a move from Cheshire to Derbyshire or further afield, for example, to Devon. The only reported family court cases where a parent, usually the mother, had been prevented from moving within the UK with a child was when there were highly exceptional circumstances. For example, the child had a disability. The internal relocation of children and the case of BB V CC The case that is proving of such interest to Manchester children solicitors is that of a 3-year-old little boy in a family court case labelled ‘’BB V CC’’. The mother and father separated and the move took the child from South East England to the North. Court proceedings were started. The court made a shared custody or child arrangements order and said the mother would need to move back to the south with the child so that shared custody with the father would work. The child’s mother appealed against the decision. The facts of most family cases are a little more complex than the bare bones. In family cases, it can be the detail that sways a judge’s decision. In every family court case, the decision has to be about what is in a child’s best interests. In the case of BB V CC, the parents had an arranged marriage. The mother came to the UK to live with her husband at the paternal family home in London. When the child was about one the parents separated. The mother relocated to the North. The father saw this as child abduction as the mother had not discussed the plan with him. The mother made serious allegations of domestic violence against the father and his parents. The court decided that the allegations of domestic violence against the paternal family were not established. The judge was concerned that parental alienation might take place if the father was not able to share the care of the little boy. The court ordered temporary contact but said the mother should relocate back to the southeast, near to where the father resided. The court said if the mother did not move back to the southeast with the child the court would think about giving the father custody of the child. The Appeal The mother appealed against the judge’s decision. She said there were no exceptional circumstances that should require her to relocate with the child within the UK. The appeal judge decided that the care of the little boy should be shared. The court said it was not possible for both parents to share the care of their son and live at other ends of the country. The judge therefore refused the mother’s appeal. [related_posts] Parental alienation and moving after divorce In the court judgment, the judge said she thought that parental alienation might take place if the mother stayed in the northeast and brought up the child with infrequent contact with his father. The judge said the child could suffer emotional harm if parental alienation took place. Internal relocation and exceptional circumstances The judge in the case of BB V CC considered the case law and decided that a children case did not have to be exceptional in order to make an internal relocation order. The judge said that the court should assess what was in the child’s best interests, and that the child’s welfare should be the court’s paramount concern. Opposing the internal relocation of children The court decision of BB V CC is likely to increase the number of parents wanting to bring court applications to try to use the court process to stop a parent and child from moving within the UK. Our children solicitors anticipate that, for parents wanting to move, it will be argued that the case of BB V CC should be looked at on its family facts. Namely the judge’s dismissal of the allegations of domestic violence and her concerns about parental alienation by the mother if the child was brought up a long distance away from the father. The law and relocating abroad with a child The law says that if a parent wants to take a child abroad to live then they need the written agreement of the other parent or a court order giving them permission to take the child abroad to live. How can Evolve Family Law Solicitors help? To get legal assistance from our children law expert Louise Halford  about the internal relocation of children in the UK , children law applications and child arrangements orders please contact us.

Writing a Will protects your loved ones. It is, therefore, one of the most important things that you can do for your family. Why write a Will? Provides for your family and/or other beneficiaries Protects your family Clarifies how you want things to be dealt with after you have passed away Can be a means of reducing the inheritance tax payable on your estate. What is a Will? A Will is a legally binding document. It sets out how you would like your estate to be distributed on your death. Your Will can specify who will inherit and what they inherit. Your Will can offer comfort to your loved ones, knowing that you took the time and trouble to protect them with a Will. What is Intestacy? If you die without making a Will, then you die intestate. Your estate is distributed in accordance with intestacy rules. The intestacy rules are not flexible. They probably will not reflect how you would have left your estate if you had made a Will. The intestacy rules dictate who will inherit from your estate. Your unmarried partner will not inherit. only a partner in a married or in a civil partnership relationship inherits under intestacy rules. The intestacy rules mean that your relatives will inherit according to a strict order, set out in legislation. This may mean that a wealthy relative will inherit your estate rather than your partner or a deserving close friend or charity. You may view your stepchildren as your relations. However, under intestacy rules they would get nothing as they are not biologically related to you. If you have no blood-relatives, your estate will go to the Crown. Wills help the family Not having a Will makes a devastating time for your family just that bit more difficult. Having a Will in place, and ideally discussing the contents with loved ones, gives peace of mind at a stressful time. It is particularly important to make a Will if you are in an unmarried relationship or have stepchildren that you want to leave a legacy to. Wills help the family business With a family business, it is not only your family who rely on you. Your family and your employees will be looking for financial security. A will, and if appropriate, a shareholder agreement or cross-option agreement, will help provide business continuity until the business is sold or transferred to your chosen beneficiary or other business shareholders as part of the cross-option agreement. Wills help children You can appoint a testamentary guardian in your Will for any child under the age of 18. Although other family members can bring a court case to say that they want to look after your child, the appointment of a testamentary guarding is compelling evidence of who you thought would be the best person to bring up your child. As well as leaving a legacy in your Will for your child, you can protect your minor child by: Appointing trustees in your Will who deal with the legacy until your child is of an age to inherit Giving the trustees the power to advance capital or income to your child. This is in the case your child needs income to pay, for example, tuition fees Starting when your child should receive their inheritance, this could be at 18, 21, or at a later age Placing money in a discretionary trust so that your child is protected from potential future claims, for example, by an estranged spouse. [related_posts] Wills can save money on inheritance tax Writing a Will can help to reduce the amount of inheritance tax payable by your estate. If you leave all your estate to your spouse or civil partner, there is normally no tax to pay. There are other ways that you can reduce the amount of inheritance tax that your estate would pay. How much does a Will cost? Evolve is one of the first law firms to publish a price guide and fixed fees for Wills. Evolve can check and review your existing Will for you. It is sensible to get your Will checked because family and personal circumstances change or your Will may no longer be as tax efficient as it could be. If you have complex finances and businesses, and need in-depth advice on trusts, estate planning and tax or on domicile then call us for a bespoke quote. If you need a Will or a Lasting Power of Attorney, or would like a review of your existing arrangements, then please contact us    

When you are separating, a lot of words get thrown around including custody, contact, access, child arrangements, shared parenting and of course, co-parenting. I am sure that many parents' heads must spin with all the legal jargon. In recent years, one of the "buzz" words has been 'co-parenting'. What does co-parenting mean when you separate or divorce? Child Custody Terminology Perhaps the best place to start is with an explanation of all the children law terminology used to describe who the primary carer of a child is. As a children solicitor who has been representing parents in children law applications for over 20 years, I am old enough to remember the times that judges routinely made custody and access orders. I still refer to custody and access. That is because parents refer to custody and access. It is not surprising that they do, as the papers, television programmes and films all talk about custody and access. I suspect that is because the media and producers think readers and viewers are not up to date with new terminology. The law changed the name of custody orders to "residence order" and access to "contact order". Those labels didn't stick around for that many years. The current terminology for a children custody, access, residence or contact order is a 'child arrangements order'. What is a children arrangements order? A child arrangements order combines a custody and access order by specifying what time a child will spend with each parent. The terminology is meant to make both parents feel of equal value as in most family situations both parents share parental responsibility for their child. This means they have equal rights and responsibilities for their child. That is the case even if they do not spend the same amount of parenting time with the child. The rationale behind the change in terminology was to get away from the idea that there was one parent who should be labelled as "the parent with care" or the "primary carer" and an "absent pareant". What does co-parenting after separation or divorce mean? Depending on to whom you speak to, you will get a different answer about what co-parenting means after a separation or divorce. To me, co-parenting is about co-operative parenting. It is about parents sharing the care of their child after a separation or divorce. What co-parenting does not mean is a slavish equal split of time spent with each parent or an equal split of day-to-day responsibility for a child. What co-parenting does mean in practise is: Providing consistent parenting in both households, so that is some consistency of routine, of style, of style and types of discipline and of chore expectations. Communication between parents so that they know of issues in the child's life, such as a bad day at school or a falling out with a best friend. Discussion between parents so, for example, a child doesn't end up with 2 similar presents on their birthday but perhaps one joint one. Playing to parents' strengths and weaknesses. If a parent does not like football, but the child does, arranging contact around football so that the other parent shoulders the responsibility of taking the child to matches and shouting at the side-lines. Respecting the other parent and their role in the child's life, even if they do not spend an equal amount of time with the child. So, for example agreeing that a child can spend fathers' or mothers' day with the correct parent, whatever the parenting regime; or making sure a child has bought a birthday card or present for a father or mother. [related_posts] Co-parenting is all about sharing parental responsibility This can include child maintenance, but, just as importantly, it  can involve one parent supporting the other parent if they have made an unwelcome decision, such as limiting i-pad time to an hour a day or confiscated a mobile phone. The other important thing to remember is co-parenting can involve others, such as grandparents, stepparent or extended family. It can be very hard to think of others having a role in your child's life, but it is easier for the child if they can talk to you openly about life at home with their other family. As a children solicitor, I am often asked about changing parenting arrangements. We often forget that a child grows up and that the contact that works at age 8 may not suit the child's needs at age 13. Co-parenting therefore has to evolve with the changing needs of both the child and the family composition and location. After all, half siblings may arrive later to join a child in a household or a parent many have to move out of the area with their job. However a parents chooses to parent their child, I always recommend that when they are thinking about separating or divorcing, that they try to look at the parenting arrangements from the  perspective of the child's needs. Your needs may coincide with the child, but having a child-focus often makes it easier to agree on the custody, contact and parenting time. There are always some parents for whom co-parenting and agreeing on custody and contact is not an option for a whole variety of reasons. That is why, despite the changing terminology, there is always the last resort option of applying to court for a child arrangements order. For legal help with children law orders, custody and contact and parenting arrangements please contact us today

Many mothers think of themselves as single parents. Many of those mothers will not legally be sole parents as they may share parental responsibility for their child. Parents often ask me how they can get or lose parental responsibility for their child. In this blog I answer the question "can a father lose parental responsibility for his child?" We are Cheshire children solicitors If you have a question about parental responsibility or can't reach an agreement over custody and contact and want to make an application to court then the experienced team of children solicitors at Holmes Chapel and Whitefield based Evolve Family Law solicitors can help you. Contact us today Mothers and parental responsibility Mothers automatically have parental responsibility for their child so usually parents want to know: Whether on separation or divorce a father has parental responsibility for his child; and If a father doesn’t have parental responsibility for a child how he can get it; and If a father does have parental responsibility for his child, whether he can be made to surrender his parental responsibility.   What is parental responsibility? Understanding what parental responsibility means is essential in order to know whether you should have it or if you need it and if parental responsibility can be lost. Parental Responsibility is the obligations and responsibilities a parent has for a child. If a parent has parental responsibility for their child, they will: Have a say in how their child should be brought up and in making major parenting decisions such as should the child change school, move abroad to live  or change religion; Have a right to receive certain information, such as school reports and copy medical records ; and Have the ability to consent to matters on behalf of their child, for example, consent to medical treatment for a young child.   Who has parental responsibility for a child? In order to know if you can make an application to court for the other parent to lose their parental responsibility you first need to know who has parental responsibility and how you can get it.   A person has parental responsibility for a child if they are: The birth mother; The adoptive parent of a child; The father of a child who Is or was married to the child’s mother; If the child was born after the 1 December 2003, and the father is named on the child’s birth certificate; Has signed a parental responsibility agreement with the child’s mother; Has a parental responsibility order. Looking after a child under a Residence Order; Parents via a surrogacy arrangement and have a parental order; A step parent of a child who has a parental responsibility agreement or court order.   How do you get parental responsibility? If you do not automatically have parental responsibility for your birth child you can get parental responsibility through: Signing a parental responsibility agreement with the mother; Applying to court for a parental responsibility order.   How can a mother lose parental responsibility? A mother can only lose parental responsibility for her child if the child is adopted.   How can a father lose parental responsibility? If an unmarried father has gained parental responsibility by parental responsibility agreement or court order then an application can be made to court to remove his parental responsibility for the child.   The court will only terminate a father’s parental responsibility if the circumstances are exceptional and the termination of parental responsibility is thought to be in the child’s best interests.   Applying to remove parental responsibility Applying to court to remove a father’s parental responsibility is rare, as the court has said that they will only remove a father’s parental responsibility if the circumstances are exceptional. The court will not terminate parental responsibility if: The child doesn’t want contact; or The father won’t see the child ; or The father won’t pay child support; or The father will not play any part in the child’s life and has ‘disappeared off the scene’.   Behaviour to terminate parental responsibility The court has always said that behaviour to justify terminating a father’s parental responsibility has to be exceptional or extreme. Being an absentee or inconsistent father is not considered exceptional or extreme.   A recent case resulted in a father losing his parental responsibility. The high court made the decision after hearing that the father referred to his autistic son as ’retarded’, used his parental responsibility to delay medical treatment for the child and had written to the mother’s neighbours referring to the child in unpleasant terms. The court thought continued behaviour of this nature would be damaging to the child.   Can a father lose parental responsibility for his child? To answer the question, yes, a father can lose parental responsibility for his child. However, this type of court application is very rare and generally, it is better that parents focus on resolving the day to day practicalities of parenting children after a separation or a divorce. That may involve shared parenting or a mainly absentee father who frustratingly wants to dip in and out of the child’s life. Even though the court will not normally strip a father of his parental responsibility there are various orders that judges will make to protect children such as child arrangements orders, specific issue or prohibited steps orders. These types of children law order do not go to the extreme of removing parental rights but can significantly limit the role a father can play in a child’s life provided it is in the child’s best interests for the father’s involvement in the child’s life to be restricted. [related_posts] If you are worried about parental responsibility or need a parental responsibility agreement or parental responsibility order or help with sorting out  custody and contact  then the expert team of children solicitors at Holmes Chapel and Whitefield based Evolve Family Law solicitors can help you. Contact us today

You would think that in the 21 century we would all know what domestic abuse is. Sadly, that is still not the case. As a divorce and children solicitor, I still come across spouses and other legal professionals who talk of ‘a bit of a push' or seem to think that the inappropriate behaviour was ok because the children did not see it. The good news is that domestic violence is now in the news for the right reasons as the government is introducing a new bill that will: Introduce a legal definition of domestic abuse to include economic abuse, as well as controlling and manipulative non-physical abuse; and Stop the cross-examination of domestic violence victims by their abusive ex-partners in the family courts ; and Make domestic violence perpetrators go into behaviour-changing rehabilitation programmes ; and Make victims of domestic violence automatically able to get protection when they give evidence in criminal trials ; and Clarify how “Clare's Law” should work. This law lets the police tell a member of the public if there are concerns over about previous violence committed by their partner ; and The creation of the role of national domestic abuse commissioner. They will improve the public services response and support for victims of domestic violence. What is domestic abuse? Some forms of domestic abuse are obvious but I will list them all: Physical abuse ; this can range from extreme violence to a punch , shove or push; Sexual abuse; this can be all forms of unwanted sexual contact; Psychological or mental abuse; this can range from extreme mind games to derogatory remarks , for example ,telling someone they are a ‘’nutter’’ ; Harassment ; this can range from stalking type behaviour outside someone’s home to online harassment on social media accounts; Coercion and control; this can take many forms; from not allowing a spouse to leave the family home unaccompanied to financial control and restricting a spouse’s access to funds. Some people will not recognise all of those behaviours as abusive but they are. Response to domestic abuse As a divorce and children solicitor, I meet husband and wives’ who have been subjected to domestic abuse. Their response can be: Accepting of the behaviour ; often a spouse will be told that the domestic abuse is their fault , for example , if only they did not ‘‘wind them up’’ it would not happen; Normalising the behaviour ; thinking that it is’’ just a bit of a slap’’; Denying the behaviour ; thinking that the domestic abuse is ‘’ all in their mind,’’ often after having been repeatedly told that they are the ones with the mental illness; Responding to the behaviour ; by starting to become abusive to their spouse or others as domestic abuse has become the ‘’norm’’ within the household; Justifying the behaviour; for example saying that the domestic abuse only happens because of a spouse’s stressful job or family pressures. However, someone responds to domestic abuse they will need help and support to come to terms with the impact of domestic abuse. The impact of domestic abuse Most experts are agreed that being subjected to or witnessing domestic abuse can lead to: Low self-esteem; Low mood; Isolation from friends and family; Indecisiveness. Often spouses take the decision to leave when they see the impact that adult domestic abuse is having on the children. A parent can be a loving mum or dad to their children but abuse their spouse. Even if the children do not always see the abuse, the atmosphere and tension can be very damaging to their welfare. [related_posts] Injunction court orders An injunction order is just one means of protecting a spouse or children from domestic abuse. An injunction is a court order stopping a named person from taking a step or ordering a step to be taken, such as: Stopping an assault or harassment by an ex- partner (called a non-molestation order); Ordering one spouse to leave a family home until the court decides what should happen long term with the family home  (called an occupation order ); Removing a child from one parent’s care if child abduction is a fear; Preventing one spouse from taking money and assets until the court decides how property and assets is split in the financial settlement (called a freezing order). If you are concerned about your children, the court can also make an urgent child arrangements order. This order settles with whom the children should live and whether they should have contact with the other parent. In a crisis, the court can make temporary orders in addition to injunction orders. How do you get an injunction order? You, or your solicitor, have to make a court application, supported by a statement and evidence. The evidence you need depends on what you are trying to stop or prevent. What are the grounds for an injunction order? The grounds depend on the injunction order that is requested from the court. If you are worried about your safety or the physical or emotional safety of your child, Evolve Family Law can assess your options, including the option of applying for an injunction order. Is an injunction order permanent? Normally injunctions are temporary court orders designed to help a family until they or, if necessary, the court is able to make long-term decisions about the custody and contact arrangements for a child or the sale or transfer of the family home. However, an injunction order can be an essential protective measure that is needed before long term decisions can be made. Legal help with domestic abuse If you need help to apply for or oppose an injunction or children application then our specialist team of family solicitors can help take urgent steps to protect you and your family. Contact Us Today